Comments for Jan 23, 2003
from: franny Date: Jan 23, 2003
i’m for anything that might help you feel better, so if it’s the new do…go
for it woman!
and YES, 4 degrees is an obscene joke!!!
from: MoonriddenGirl Date Jan 23, 2003
Sal–
Several years ago, a friend of mine died of cancer. We were not close,
but we had a close mutual friend who would share her astonishment that
nobody in this woman’s family was willing to talk about death with her,
not even after they had made a decision to focus on pain management
rather than treatment.
I told her then that I imagined that our friend’s family found it too
painfully close for them to consider. The whole Kubler-Ross thing
starts well before the death of a loved one; it starts at the diagnosis.
Maybe even sooner, maybe the first time that we consider the possibility
that our loved ones might die.
Perhaps it would help if you told the Socialist that you need to talk
about all possibilities–desirable ones as well as unfortunate ones.
Explain to him that you are not wallowing in depression or trying to
drag him into it, but simply being practical. Most men seem to respond
to that appeal.
If he absolutely cannot help you with this and nobody else can either,
perhaps you could write up the instructions regarding your funeral and
information as to whom you would like contacted and put it into an
envelope marked prominently (“in the event of my death” or suchlike),
making sure that he and your sisters know where it is–even if they
refuse to discuss it.
You might also consider asking somebody who is not as close to you to
handle some of those aspects. When I had my brain surgery, I gave S one
contact name, a woman I know online, and she kindly updated everyone
else for me. I’m sure you have more than enough friends online–even at
DD–to handle this task for you.
Good luck resolving this issue. I know how important it is. {{u}}
MRG
From: Slipperman Date: Jan 23, 2003
your talk of making arrangements should things not go well with the transplant is very disconcerting, indeed, dear pal. but you are right–you have to be realistic. i worry about the potential outcome a lot more than i let on.
that crackhead that said you had a ‘radio-face’ is a crackhead not worthy of attention. she has never met you. you’re impishly divine 8) (it’s too bad we can’t see or hear ourselves the way others see us. such a cute little voice) . i’m sure the soc certainly thinks so. ….and go for the hair style change.
if there’s anything i can do to support you on this journey, let me know. you have my sword.
slipper
From: TraumaMama Date: Jan 23, 2003
I miss comments!
Go get your hair done! It might be an uplifter for you.
The temp hasn’t dropped that low in a couple of years here. That’s the
type of cold were we leave the water cracked. Since our well is run by
electricity, we hope the power stays on.
With your final wishes, I can sympathize with what you are saying. As
much as none of us want to face the end, it is coming for all of us. I
guess I can understand that those that care for us might find the task
unpleasant.
There is one nice thing about email comments.
At least I can now reread the entries as I write the comment.
Stay warm and GET YOUR HAIR DONE!
Thanks! You folks are the best.